Heaven and Hell - 4.10
Before I start talking about Destiel, I want to talk about Sam, because there is no Destiel without Sam. If Dean didn’t love Sam, Dean wouldn’t have sold his soul to bring Sam back; Dean wouldn’t have gone to hell; and Dean wouldn’t have broken the first seal and fulfilled the prophecy that named him the Righteous Man, the Michael Sword, the one who would begin it and could end it all; and Castiel wouldn’t have been ordered to pull Dean from Hell. So they would never have met.
It all comes back to Dean’s love for Sammy.
But it’s more than just setting up the circumstances for how they met. Dean’s love for Sam is the reason that he was righteous. He wasn’t in Hell because of some transgression or because he sold his soul to better himself, which would invalidate the righteousness. He gave up his life for his brother’s, and that’s what made him good. And he had to be a good man to break the seal.
Now I personally don’t ship Wincest. I can see it. I get why people ship it. I love the in-jokes about it, the fanservice, the little digs about it - honestly, I’m glad when any show references a slash ship like that. I love people who ship Wincest. I’ve given a bunch of bullshit reasons for why I don’t ship Wincest over the years (I’ve been watching the show since the Pilot aired, although not faithfully) but the truth is, I just don’t see the characters that way. I don’t get the vibe from them that they’re sexually interested in each other. I hate saying that because then people demand that I explain why don’t see it and I have no idea. It’s probably something really personal.
However, if you do ship Wincest, I don’t think that invalidates Destiel for you. Let’s say, for a moment, that Dean is sexually attracted to Sam. This does not mean that he’s not interested in Castiel. Most people can experience sexual attraction to more than one person in their lifetime. And it certainly would have no effect on Castiel’s feelings towards Dean. It’s possible to ship both Destiel and Wincest. Okay? It’s not a zero-sum game, where if one pair wins, the other loses. Wincest shippers are more than welcome on this blog, and there’s certainly going to be no Sammy bashing because I love Sam.
I don’t think Dean has to choose between Castiel and Sam. Cas and Sam get along fine; in fact, most of the time they get along better than Cas and Dean. If Dean was the kind of person who would ditch his family to spend time with his new best friend, I don’t think Castiel would like him. And if Castiel was the kind of person who would ask Dean to abandon Sam, Dean would hate Cas.
I don’t see how Destiel would work without Sam.